父母如何避免过度养育？试试这些方法

较难

初中三年级

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教育

什么是“过度养育”？父母又该如何避免？本文作者为那些紧张焦虑的父母提供了几种方法。

Overparenting(过度养育) is bad for children’s development. If you’re a nervous parent, how can you stop overparenting? Here are some ways.

过度养育对孩子的发展有害。如果你是一个紧张的父母，你怎么能停止过度养育？这里有一些方法。

1. Learn from other independent parents.

1.向其他独立的父母学习。

Develop relationships with other families who don’t overparent. This can be easier said than done. You might easily find parents who don’t overparent in some aspects(方面) but do in others. For example, they may not excessively(过分地) control their children in their friendships(友谊), but still force their children to take part in a lot of tutoring courses(课外辅导课).

与其他不超亲的家庭发展关系。这说起来容易做起来难。你可能很容易找到父母，他们在某些方面不超亲，但在其他方面却超亲。例如，他们可能不会在友谊中过度控制他们的孩子，但仍然强迫他们的孩子参加许多辅导课程。

2. Remember your own experiences of not being overparented.

2.记住你自己没有被过度抚养的经历。

Think about your own independence skills. How did you learn them? How did not being overparented help you when you were a child? What happy memories do you have of learning and playing independently? How did you like to spend your free time? How was not being overparented good for developing your skills?

想想你自己的独立技能。你是怎么学会的？当你还是个孩子的时候，父母过多是如何帮助你的？你对独立学习和玩耍有什么快乐的回忆？你喜欢如何度过你的空闲时间？父母过多对发展你的技能有什么好处？

3. Address your biggest fears.

3.解决你最大的恐惧。

What are your biggest fears about not overparenting? My biggest fear is my child’s safety(安全). Instead of worrying about everything, do something to solve the problem.

你最担心的是没有过度养育子女？我最大的恐惧是我孩子的安全。不要担心一切，做点什么来解决问题。

4. _________

You can’t just not overparent. You need to fill that void(空白) with other activities. Try to think about the situations in which you want to overpartent, and think out new plans for those situations. Then try them out. Try to develop your parenting skills. See yourself develop as you see your child develop.

你不能只是没有父母。你需要用其他活动来填补这个空白。试着思考你想超越的情况，并为这些情况想出新的计划。然后试一试。试着发展你的育儿技巧。当你看到你的孩子成长时，看到你自己的发展。